“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1
How do I, when in the midst of chaos (and my temper) bring out those soft words?!!
I only have a few short hours with the kids on the days I have to work but even on my days off, it seems I find myself yelling more and losing my temper more quickly. I see it sometimes in my husband, and it irritates me so much when I think he yells at the kids unnecessarily.
But why, when we do it ourselves, it seems justified?!!
I lost it the other night when my five year old son was trying to open the cake saver with his oldest sister’s birthday cake in it. I asked him not to (I could foresee the mess, of course, that was about to ensue) but he continued to try to figure it out trying to open it anyway.
The lid popped off, slid right into the cake, and…
I lost it.
It wasn’t even the fact that he ruined the cake (because I’m cool with eating any type of birthday cake whether it’s in pieces or whole) but it was the fact that he directly disobeyed me.
The problem was, I screamed at him.
I didn’t stop to control my temper, I let it out to do its destructive work and now I’m sorry for it.
I did sit him down later, after the sparks were through flying and the embers had cooled, to explain why I was upset, to apologize and ask his forgiveness… but it’s not enough.
If I am truly sorry, I need to change because that’s what being sorry is…feeling sorrow for what I have done.
“A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.” Proverbs 29:11
I don’t want to be that fool any longer.
I ran across this brilliant blog post by Khamneithang the other day:
The wise old owl
A wise old owl sat in an oak,
The more he heard, the less he spoke;
The less he spoke, the more he heard.
Why can’t we be like that old bird?
Oh God, hold my tongue when I get angry. Help me to express my feelings softly, and like the owl… choose words wisely!